I’ve grown weary of the word “busy”. People use it all the time, usually to show you how important they are in frivolous Facebook status updates. “What a busy day! Hit my Kosama class, went to work, met with the hubby for lunch hour, then ran the kids to practice, home to cook dinner, do laundry and finally able to crash. Whew!” Wow, congratulations…you just described almost every mother’s day, minus the luxury of having a lunch hour or the money and energy to take workout classes. How do you manage such a “busy” day?
People use the word “busy” as a vague excuse to get out of stuff they don’t want to do. How many times have you heard “Gosh, can’t, I’m busy” and you suspect that person’s “busy” day consists of eating an entire family sized bag of Doritos while binge watching, ironically, Orange Is The New Black on Netflix. Busy is as busy does, I guess.
The word “busy” is also a handy excuse for not getting back to someone. Have a backlog of unreturned calls and e-mails? It’s not your fault, you’re BUSY! No one probably even asked for an excuse, but you pulled out the old “I’ve been busy” line anyway. I mean, this isn’t the Flinstones, or even 20 years ago. You don’t have to etch a message into a stone tablet, find a pay phone or even remember someone’s number. No reasonable person is going to buy that you’ve been too busy to call, text, e-mail, Facebook message, ect. from a device most of us have with us ALL THE TIME and can’t live without for more than five minutes. No one is that “busy”. The only excuses we should accept are slipping into a coma, or being trapped under something heavy. Not even finger amputation counts, you can dial a cell phone with your nose.
Using the word “busy” is another sign we say things we don’t mean and make promises we don’t keep. “I’ll call you”…”Let’s get together”…”Maybe next week”…If our words were on the stock exchange they would be worthless. Maybe “busy” needs a makeover. Use it for the only alternative that has a positive connotation. Like, “Sorry I didn’t get back to you, I was gettin’ BUSY with my boyfriend!” I’ve caught myself using the excuse “I’m busy”, and almost immediately realized it made me sound like a self-involved jerk over-inflated with her own importance. But I was too busy to care.